Through my own self-growth, I learned a couple of important lessons that I want to talk about in this blog. The first one is being transparent and vulnerable. We all have stories to share. We have ups and downs, and sometimes when you open up, you may inspire someone without knowing. Your vulnerability may also lead to helping someone when they open up to you because they will know that they are not alone in whatever it is that they are going through. You should never be ashamed of your own journey, and rather embrace it.
The second part is to be a person of value. I saw a saying that goes “no one cares how much you know until they know how much you care”. It really spoke to my heart because so many of us are busy with the daily grind and hustle that we can neglect everything else. If you have some friends you haven’t talked to in a while, send them a meaningful text to let them know that you’re still thinking of them even though you’re busy on your own journey. Value doesn’t necessary have to be money. It can simply be your time. I volunteered at a couple of events during the holidays and found that a lot of people just wanted a friend to talk to.
Being involved in the mental wellness space has brought me great joy. If you don’t know, I’m a Wellness Partner at a company a friend and mentor founded several years ago. We make all natural products using the gut/brain axis (or the gut microbiome) to tackle mental wellness problems like stress, anxiety, lack of energy, leaky gut, inability to sleep, etc.
Being that I found a lot of my friends through the Internet, I believe a friend is a friend to me. It doesn’t matter if we met in school, online or at a coffee café. One of my friends I met via online was experiencing mental health struggles. I didn’t know what I can do given that I’m not a trained professional so I checked in here and there, and listened to her. Eventually I told her about one of the products we make to help with reducing anxiety, while increasing calmness. I know the product has worked very well for many people, and I take it myself as well.
I’m sure she was reluctant at first because after all, I was just an online friend. As time went on, we became better friends. Then I got these messages from her. It truly warmed my heart, and writing this just makes me smile to think about it again! I am glad I was able to be apart of her journey.
She found her own modalities including the mood support product, and drawing. There are many holistic approaches out there, including yoga, and meditation. Everyone will have their own combination. They key is to find yours so you can be well, both mentally and physically. She has become quite a serious artist. She even sent me a cool card for Christmas. This was way better than the chicken scratch written cards I sent out!
To wrap up the blog, I encourage you all to not be ashamed of who you are. If you’re still working on yourself, that’s fine too because your past doesn’t determine your future. I also encourage everyone to be the lighthouse that shines in the darkness. Be the most optimistic person you know because you don’t know who you can affect.